COMMUNICATION
 
Each month, an Everitt Newsletter including school calendar is available in an on-line or printed version. Reading the newsletter and placing the calendar somewhere in your home as a reference will be helpful. Please read all newsletters and notices that are sent home.
Children should not be depended on to accurately repeat a message from a parent to the teacher or principal. Messages to the teacher or school office should always be in writing. Remember to include the child's's full name and your full name (since they may be different from each other). If you request a telephone call from a staff member, he/she will attempt to return your call the same day or within 24 hours. When families have Caller ID, it is more difficult to contact you because the staff uses an unpublished number that is blocked by your phone system. Our office telephone lines are often in use with incoming calls. Please be patient. If you have not received a call, it is possible that all lines were busy.
COMMUNICATION TIPS FOR PARENTS
Be available for your children
  • Notice times when your kids are most likely to talk - for example, at bedtime, before dinner, in the car - and be available.
  • Start the conversation; it lets your kids know you care about what's happening in their lives.
  • Find time each week for a one-on-one activity with each child, and avoid scheduling other activities during that time.
  • Learn about your children's interest - for example, favorite music and activities and show interest in them.
  • Initiate conversations by sharing what you have been thinking about rather than beginning a conversation with a question.
Let your kids know you're listening
  • When your children are talking about concerns, stop whatever you are doing and listen.
  • Express interest in what they are saying without being intrusive.
  • Listen to their point of view, even if it's difficult to hear.
  • Let them complete their point before you respond.
  • Repeat what you heard them say to ensure that you understand them correctly.
Respond in a way your children will hear
  • Soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry or defensive.
  • Express your opinion without putting down theirs; acknowledge that it's okay to disagree.
  • Resist arguing about who is right. Instead say, "I know you disagree with me, but this is what I think".
  • Focus on your child's feelings rather than your own during your conversation.
Remember
  • Ask your children what they may want or need from you in a conversation, such as advice, simply listening, help in dealing with feelings, or help solving a problem.
  • Kids learn by imitating. Most often, they will follow your lead in how they deal with anger, solve problems, and work through difficult feelings.
  • Talk to your children - don't lecture, criticize, threaten or say hurtful things.
  • Kids learn from their own choices. As long as the consequences are not dangerous, don't feel you have to step in.
Parenting is hard work
Listening and talking is the key to a healthy connection between you and your children. But parenting is hard work and maintaining a good connection with teens can be challenging, especially since parents are dealing with many other pressures. If you are having problems over an extended period of time, you might want to consider consulting with a mental health professional to kind out how they can help.